My heart goes out to you both. My mother was diagnosed on 2/14/2001. She has had radiation and is now in her final stages of this awful disease. Hospice is helping, but there is nothing like have family to care for the sick. My four sisters and I have taken to caring for her so my dad wouldn't be so hurt by all this. They will celebrate their 49th anniversary next month, God permitting. I know how terrible it is to see a loved one waste away and not be able to do anything. Just know they are going to a better place and will be happier there than here. We'll see them again soon.